Saturday, April 28, 2012

might be a nap in the hammock kind of day

Successful party = check! As much whining as I did yesterday about not wanting to host the party it was actually pretty darn easy. I am use to personally making a table full of heavy and light hordourves for my parties so I was feeling guilty about not. Everyone brings something to share and drink so I made popcorn! ha! I would say we had over 20 people and I met some new neighbors and had some great conversations. Also had the opportunity to share my art work with a couple of ladies that thought I was awesome. Always good to hear and one of them has a friend with an art gallery so you never know!  I am thinking I may try to assemble a bit of a portfolio of my pieces large enough to show some details. It feels wrong to say 'Oh, well lets look at my computer at photos'...
kind of hoaky.

I wanted to share a book I just read...The House at Tyneford by Natasha Solomons. It begins in 1938 and is the story about an old english estate on the Dorset Coast as war was beginning to break out. The author used an actual estate Tyneham as her basis and the history behind that area and time frame is fascinating. Churchill told the people of Tyneham they would have to leave their estate, village and homes so the military could use them but promised they would be returned to them after the war. So the residents all planted their gardens and tidied up their places so when they returned it would be life as usual. They even left a note pinned to the church asking the soldiers to please take care of their village and homes because they were so impt to them. Well Churchill did not ever return their estate to them and the soldiers (British and American) shot up the houses and ruined the village. I found the whole history of this so interesting I am searching Amazon for more books on that time frame. The war from England's point of view is so different from what we learned in America.

Yesterday I finally broke down and wrote to the event planner for the winery and told her I could not come up with an easy way to orchestrate the month of Sept and she would need to find another artist. She merely replied 'OK ..no problem ~soak up some sun for me.'  Geez she could have faked some disappointment dont you think?  I have been trying to understand why I refused to send this email sooner and wondered if I was hoping I could still do the show. Was I sad to give up the dream of being somebody?? Was I embarrassed to once again back out and be a quitter? I have decided yes to all 3. While I was in the process of planning this show and dreaming of possibly being a success I felt full of potential. I feel nothing but disappointment in myself right now yet I know there are different avenues I can pursue. I guess I was riding high on the possibility of being good at something. Oh well. At least its done and I can move on with a clear calendar.

We have rented the wonderful MN lake home again for Aug and from there going to New Glarus WI to see my sweet cousin and on to Door County. I am so excited to see all of these places again! Kind of a cute story...the people we are renting the lake home from emailed me about the dates. So I replied "Great... and the sec deposit last summer was $1000.00~ is that still fine?"  She writes back that last yr was their first time renting but this year they know us and it wont be necessary! Seriously? We have never met and we still have a cat and dog! I write these friendly emails convincing them to let us use their home and saying I wish we could have a cocktail on the deck together...and now they think we are friends. The power of words is incredible~
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Friday, April 27, 2012

Its Friday already?

This week we had one of those cool retractable screen doors added to our entry and when you look towards the mountains you cannot even tell its there. It provides a wonderful cross breeze for our house and I basically am very pleased to finally have one. My man is a bit tired of me saying 'but all the neighbors have one' and it was obvious it was not on his list.
Here is Buster enjoying the view and the breeze. See what I mean about how you cannot see it?! I know, right? Very cool! I did have a neighbor suggest we add a sticker because someone had walked into theirs. What the heck look where you are going! So far Grace and Buster seem to have no problem realizing its there...

I went to a recommended dermatologist this week and she practically ran out of ink circling what she said was skin cancer. She proceeded to tell me due to Obamacare she could only biopsy 2 at a time.
So I am feeling very vulnerable lying there as she cuts and sutures me twice and wishing she wouldn't.  I went home angry because I felt it was overkill for topical cancers and I will have scars now AND we dont have Obamacare! What the heck?! I have to return in 2 weeks to remove the sutures and to remove her from my life. I am still feeling angry at her process and words...yet because I had melanoma I am forced to find another doctor willing to help me be proactive. Why do there have to be so many lunatics in the medical field?!? You will thank me for not posting a photo of my neck cut...poor Ky had to be 'my person' and receive that shot.Ugh.

My man and I golfed yesterday and it was an absolutely perfect day out. 80 and cool breeze and I finally did not suck at golf. I think I was less distracted because no friends to talk to... I slowed down my swing process and worked on not looking up during putting. Went home feeling encouraged and that is the first time this season. I have been secretly wishing we would quit the club so I would not have to continue to hate myself for not improving. Golf is so unforgiving and only a good round makes one want to return.
I am also going to share a story that definitely does not make me look good but is a wonderful lesson in life. We were playing behind a threesome and they were so darn slow it felt like we would hit our ball and then wait forever for them to progress enough for us to hit again. If you golf you know what I mean. Ugh. Then every hole they would drive their 2 carts right up to the green and park them. This was making us crazy angry because for everyone coming after them their carts leave tire grooves and changed the course our balls might take to the flag. Its proper etiquette to not drive to the greens...or at least not to the approach...park on the side.
So for 18 holes we are complaining and waiting...ok maybe we didnt complain all 18 holes...So when we finish I go in the pro shop and begin to tattle on the member asking who he was and explaining why we were upset. So I am told well he might have been having a bad day because his wife is in the hospital and not doing well...ok well now I feel bad but it gets worse. Once a year he takes these two friends golfing and he told our pro he was dreading it today..one of them is practically blind and the other is deaf and he is miserable the whole round but they look fwd to it.
Can you still see me? Could I possibly feel smaller and more petty? No I dont think so. So here is our lesson for the day/week/year...dont be so quick to judge someone because you never know what battles they are fighting. I wish I could say I am glad I could be of service reminding you all of this but I only wish I had never walked into the pro shop and opened my mouth.
Speaking of opening my mouth...we have been having neighborhood parties every month or so. Its kind of a word of mouth sort of thing and everyone brings something to share and to drink and there are usually 20+ peeps. Well at the last one, after a couple glasses of wine, I volunteered our place for the last one. Why? At the time it seemed fine but its tonight and I SOOOO do not want to do it.
Will I ever learn? Probably not...
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Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Friends and family

Well we survived the hot weekend...they had the coldest Coachella Fest last weekend and the hottest one this weekend. Poor Timothy dressed in black, black boiling hot stage at 3:00 in the afternoon. Hottest point of the day. He was miserable. They showed photos of the fest with over 85,000 people wall to wall in the heat. For me that would be a taste of hell...I overheat easily and hate crowds.
I was hoping for a better visit with him since who knows when our paths will cross again but he was tired, stressed and wanted to go home. I can understand that.
The luau was good fun but I may have to sneak into the clubhouse for golf because I am pretty sure I was having a bit TOO much fun. I thought I could dance, thought I was funny, thought I was entertaining and we all know what that looks like! Oh well someone needed to be that person..it was difficult to compete for it tho because several guys were wearing tiaras and grass skirts. If you start with that its difficult to stand out more~
We had friends from GH meet up with us last week for happy hour and came over to see our house. They live in our old neighborhood and she was our realtor. While I thought it was so wonderful that she included me in her tight group of friends I always felt like crying when I went home. I do not know if its country club living or what but I have never experienced so much gossiping behind backs as I did in our 4 yrs there. I had some wonderful times in GH and met some lovely friends as well so I am not saying I regret moving there. I just dont miss the drama and judgmental lifestyle. KVK said it was terrible his senior yr to be around the Canterwood kids because popularity was all based on how much money your parents had and what they were willing to pick up the tab for their kids to do. Guess he was a misfit for sure since we would never have lived up to comparison.
So during this evening with our friends she says to me 'So besides us you do you miss from Canterwood?" I replied I missed our neighbors ( older Japanese couple) and that was about it. She was absolutely indignant that I said that...and needless to say we didnt see them again during their visit. I have put considerable thought into why I feel this way and basically if I miss my previous life I cannot be happy in my present. If I look back at all the places we have lived I have definitely missed one more than the rest but I want to be here now. I enjoy meeting strangers and making them into new friends. Maybe I feel more vulnerable with old friends because they know too much or I know too much about them. I have had a couple of gfs I thought were lifelong friends completely drop me recently. One can't help but wonder what changed about me so much they no longer want to know me? Should I try to figure it out and change back or simply move on? Well of course I choose move on...its easier and honestly I don't believe everyone you knew is suppose to be a part of your future.
I do wonder though if I am not as nice or as fun as they thought I should be.... people change.
So last night I was pondering this concept and I came to the conclusion that I simply dont miss lives or places I have experienced. I basically only miss the times I was a family. I miss being 1/5 of the Vetterli family and all the relatives that came with it. I completely miss being 1/5 of the Kamolz family and how much I loved my sons and being the center of our family. I miss belonging to a group of people that had to love me for simply being one of them. Friends dont have the same obligation and it feels like a lot of work sometimes to nurture friendships. Unfortunately I also ended up in a family (Vetterlis) that fell apart and I have almost no connection with any of them. I see my cousins family all get together and its amazing there are so many and all very close. I didn't get that and there is nothing I can do to change it. Our side is a band of gypsies and loners and people seeking their own happiness. I am one of them. My sons are all taking different paths and I guess we raised them that way. I just miss being a part of a family and our lives intertwining into the fabric of us.
I do not miss my life in WA and I have new friends to nurture here and so many new experiences waiting for me. Life is what you make it and if you are looking over your shoulder at the past you will miss all that is ahead of you.
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Friday, April 20, 2012

heating up

We are finally reaching the 100 degree mark and it takes a bit to adjust such as walking early and late, less clothing, swimming more, drinking more...The good news is our pool has reached 82 today with just sunshine to heat it. Very refreshing and fun to finally use it more often.
Since my last post we have been very busy and that is always a good thing. Jerry is installing insulation behind our metal garage door to help keep the western sun from heating up the garage so much. Of course now he needs a stronger opener because our cheap one is struggling with the additional weight. Every project has a follow up fixer it seems. We finally replaced the carpet in the house and while it is lighter than I thought we decided on...(who can tell from some little square sample?!) It does looks so much better. First of all it lightened up the rooms and basically just feels cleaner.
The office
I realize my before and afters arent exactly in sync but you get the idea.  Grace and Wolfgang do not love the new carpet because now they can no longer play their chase around the couch games. 'Inside behavior' is never as much fun.
 Found some perfect cushions for my new seating area but have yet to have anyone sit here.
My man has been unpacking and our remote control boat got the chance to sail! It misses the lake in MN but still looks wonderful in just a pool.
It was a wonderful day for me to see roses in bloom on five of my plants! So glad they are all making it after such a rough start!
We had Timothy and Jammie in and out last weekend for Coachella Fest and it was miserable cold weather. Timothy left after the performance on Sat for the east coast and then Ingerlise arrived! I think I am ready for a maid's position in a resort I can turn around guests so fast! We had signed up for a cowboy roundup golf tournament and of course went overboard on our golf outfits.
My man and his hero! Isn't this just too cute?!
It is NOT possible to golf in cowboy boots without slipping on your butt!

The good news is we came in 3rd and won 2 bottles of tequilla! How well they know us!
Ingerlise returned to the soggy NW and our temps are rising. There will be some serious beer drinking going on at Coachella Fest this weekend! We are going golfing this evening (I feel some whining about being too hot coming on) and a closing night luau tomorrow night so hopefully we run into Timothy and Jammie at some point. They are going to take advantage of being able to see shows for free as they should. Geez ...300.00 for a weekend pass...crazy!
I have not been sewing lately but hope to start up again when there is less going on.  I figure its the perfect too hot outside thing to do.  I guess deep down I am relieved to not be doing the Seattle show because I no longer feel the pressure to produce. I also dont have the high of thinking I might be a success at something. Life is trade offs I guess.
Last night Grace, Buster and I were laying in bed reading... actually only I was reading. All of a sudden there is some kind of crazy noise coming from outside actually scaring the cat it was so loud.  So the three of us keep looking at each other wondering what the heck?..picture Gracie wearing her perked mickey mouse ears listening. Well... turns out its just our neighbor taking her 'action' outside and loving it. It felt like we were listening to Meg Ryan fake the big one in Harry and Sally... and oh so awkward! Seriously where does one go to not listen and who knew her short bald bf was that hot?!?! Life is good!
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Saturday, April 7, 2012

Happy Easter weekend!

I just downloaded my camera and look what I found! I DID take photos after all!
It takes a pool float to get tk to drink Coors!
jw went home a very brown berry so I am surprised I have a photo of her in the shade! Wolfgang was here as well but no where near the water in case his dad grabbed him for a dip! While a good swimmer, definitely not a willing one!
This is our new umbrella which has been wonderful blocking the sun into the kitchen in the morning. It also provided a lovely place to have a bite to eat! I am still working on the garage sale style setup I have going there...
So yesterday we attended the Indian Wells Art Festival and it was very cool. Much more relaxed atmosphere and not so many "out there" artists. We found the watercolor artist we like and felt terrible that we didn't fall in love with the big horn sheep he had painted for us. We kind of sneaked off to figure out how to not hurt his feelings but also not purchase something we didnt love. We ended up visiting with a stain glass artist who lives in Ojai now but came from Nederland CO. Very interesting individual and she told us to be honest with him and we should not buy something that doesn't move us. So we went back and spoke to him and it was awful. He was so kind and said he had two interested parties so not to worry. It still felt so sad because I have been the artist hoping my person loved what I made for them. I can still remember throwing myself to the ground in tears when the guy came for the SW kokopelli piece. Nothing about him said he was pleased and it killed me.
So we went back to tell the stain glass friend it worked out and ended up buying this from her. There was no pressure to buy but this is called Springtime in Ojai and it caught my eye from the moment we walked up.
We are working on where to hang it but I wanted to share it with you in the meantime. It didn't hurt that it was about half the price and I really liked the artist as a person. Wonder when her birthday is?!? lol
I also came to the conclusion I am not meant to be a business person/artist. This artist drove down for at least 3 days of this show, hotel and dining, had been here for 4 hours and not sold anything and highly likely would not sell more this day. She had to pay for the booth and give 12% of her sales to the show. Seems like a very fragile way to make money not to mention the hurt feelings if no one buys at all.  Being an artist is a bit like having a window into your soul and you need to be tough enough to handle people not liking what they see.
  I have decided not to do the art show in Seattle...just too difficult to orchestrate and highly likely nothing would sell to compensate for all the expenses. I have been touched by the support of my friends wanting to attend but it takes more than that to pull it off. I keep saying I want to be somebody but honestly maybe I am not meant to be more than I am. I am feeling badly my friend forgot to pay me for the story quilt so how the heck could I be a success as a business person? I know, right?!  I am trying to figure out what direction to go with this second half of my life and its not easy to do. I get so upset at my boys for not trying harder or being motivated to be all they are capable of. Now I understand because believing in yourself and pursuing something unknown is difficult. It takes courage and determination and sometimes settling just feels more comfortable. Ah life...why do you have to be such a challenge!
Hope you all have a blessed Easter and find ALL the eggs!
Hugs~

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Been a while...

I had to go back and read my last post its been so long I had no idea what you already knew!
My friend did need surgery so they quickly packed up and headed back to MN and unfortunately we did not get a chance to see them again. A little know fact is people from MN are not good about staying in touch. At all. I have had my heart hurt while learning this and now know not to take it personal. I will be sad if we don't stay in touch with these new friends but deep down I am expecting it.
I received a call from my only Pagosa Springs friend and she was on her way back to CO after visiting her son in LA. She asked if she could come spend a couple of nights and of course we said yes. It was so great to catch up with her and just be in her presence. She is an amazing woman with endless energy and such a positive outlook on life.
Grace smothering yet another guest!

I wish I looked as fit and young as her but not going to happen so I just enjoy her friendship and marvel in her accomplishments.
We had Timothy and Jammie (and of course Wolfgang) come over for a visit and spend the night. They brought an awful lot of laundry but I am hoping that was not the reason for the visit. :^< We did bbq ribs one night and steaks the other...that boy is quiet and yet so capable of getting what he wants! lol  JK and I commented when they left it was so fun to see Timothy horse around in the pool with the dogs and just have some fun. It seems coming here is always work for him and while we appreciate it we loved seeing him be silly as well.
 I would add a photo of Timothy and Jammie now but I guess we didn't take any. So here I am my first time in the pool using my birthday float and drinking a beer Timothy made. I know right? Life is good!
Timothy left on Tues for Austin to re begin his tour with Childish Gambino but got caught in the DFW tornados. Very scary and frustrating but he finally made it there and my gf Gugi sent me this adorable photo of her dog Angel hiding from the tornados/lightening/hail/rain...they always go overboard in Texas!

She is such a crack up I just had to post this! Haha!

So today I have been cleaning and going thru stuff...its endless isnt it? I got so sad and frustrated going thru my sewing things because I have a boat load of things waiting for me to make for some wonderful grandchild. My friends all have them and it just seems so unfair that I wont. I have the house and yard all decorated for Easter and people keep saying 'Oh you must have grandkids coming!' Nope. I took down the eggs hanging in my tree and devastated the little boy down the street. Its not like I am begging my sons to hurry up especially when at least 2 of them dont want kids. I just think its one of lifes injustices and everyone has them. I will get over it someday or maybe some little kid without grandparents will find me.

Exciting news!! We are getting new carpet next week! I cannot wait because I think this will be the final improvement and make the whole house seem new, clean and ours. Photos to come! Woohoo!

Final note because I see wine being poured in the kitchen and I simply cannot resist. The watercolor artist was at the last show in Old Town and we spoke to him about his watercolor of Big Horn sheep. He had not had time to paint one but took my name and number. He phoned us yesterday and said he has it and best one yet. He is going to be at the Indian Wells Art Fest this weekend and will have it for us to see. For some reason I just think this is such cool beans to have a local artist paint something just for us. We are going there tomorrow so I will let you know if it comes home with us.
I finally mailed this out last Monday because I could not stop adding more details to it and I needed to move on. Cindee says she loves it and it was more than she ever imagined. I am so glad. I have already finished a small piece for the art show and now I am working on another SW piece similar to the one I did before with Kokopelli. I think it will be fun to hang in my own house as well.

I feel so sad when I go to the mailbox and there is still no payment. I should not have to ask and yet I so deserve to be rewarded for all my hard work.
Sorry for sounding a bit pathetic here and there...off to wine!
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